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Behance, The 99% and My Mom….

July 20, 2010

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“A mentor is someone whose hindsight can be your foresight.” - Anonymous

UNION SQUARE, NY – This weekend, I celebrated my Mother’s birthday over dinner and a movie (we saw Inception). As a teacher with a degree in special education; my mother has been in service to public school students for nearly two decades. In many ways, this professional training guided her in raising me. In elementary school, I often struggled to keep pace with my classmates. Reading was a challenge for me, so were most sports and standardized tests. Recognizing this, my mother enrolled me in alternative public schools until I graduated from high school. She also actively funded my passion for the arts. Through this focus, I learned to employ a level of self-discipline that I might not have experienced otherwise.

Recently, I participated in a film by the 99 percent (part of the Behance Network) that offers advice for the Class of 2010 about “Making Ideas Happen”. See below:

As a child, my mother believed that I could overcome my developmental obsticles by working alongside people with very high personal standards. This simple lesson transformed my life and allows me to constantly create better relationships with my friends, family and clients. Although we may disagree at times, our commitment to self-improvement allows us to do better work together. If you want to be your best, I suggest exclusively working with people who are committed to being their best. The result is often a collective success that can be traced back to a series of individual successes. Thank you Mom for your guidance and mentorship. Happy Birthday!

Tags: advice for young creatives, art and design, behance, press features, the 99 percent
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Story of a Family: Cherry Blossom Lessons

May 11, 2010

“Break open a cherry tree and there are no flowers, but the spring breeze brings forth myriad blossoms.” - Ikkyu Sojun

MADISON SQUARE PARK, NY – In April, I had the pleasure of meeting Phyllis Cheung, her husband Phil and their two children for a lifestyle session in New York City. The family was visiting from their home in California so Phyllis could attend several business meetings on the East Coast. I first came to know Phyllis via her daily musings on twitter. Working with her husband, Phyllis launched launched My Wedding Concierge in September of 2009.

Experiencing this couple with their children was awesome…except for the moment when I accidentally cursed out loud…in front of their daughter…not so fun. I sometimes use the excuse of “being a New Yorker” to justify foul language but there really is no good reason for it…I just like cursing sometimes. This time was incredibly inappropriate and I am really sorry. That said, the rest of our time spent together was quite enjoyable…

Phyllis had never observed the flower in real life, however, she was very clear in asking for a location with cherry blossoms. A bit of research on my part revealed that cherry blossoms were in full bloom at Madison Square Park. To my surprise, I also learned that the Japanese practice known as “flower viewing” is an emulation of a Chinese tradition: where the imperial households, poets, singers and other aristocrats would gather and celebrate under the [cherry] blossoms. Whether Jazz, Theater, live painting or photojournalism, improvisational performance is an art form that requires immense practice and research.

All improv artists MUST invest in mastering the fundamentals before we can freely access our creative facilities “in the moment”. This is the nature of photojournalism as practiced by such greats as Henry Cartier Bresson. The above qoute by Zen Buddhist priest and poet Ikkyu Sojun is a reminder to me about the nature of documentary photography. Like the well-rooted cherry tree, the beauty of a photograph is not in the camera or the paper but rather the subtle fleeting stories that are locked into each image. Stories that unlock our memories and remember our celebrated past.

I am thankful to Phyllis and her family for allowing me to document this moment in their lives. Considering what I have learned, I think I’ll take my grandmother up on her offer to see this presentation at the Botanical Gardens.

Tags: cherry blossoms, iwedding, madison square park, My Wedding Concierge, new york lifestyle photographer, new york lifestyle photography, Phyllis Cheung
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Story of a Family: Mother’s Day

May 9, 2010

Three Mothers (from left to right): My mother, Aunt and Grandmother

“The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness.” - Balzac

PROSPECT PARK, NY – I have not seen my grandmother laugh this hard in years! After enjoying a round of mimosas (its Sunday after all), the table was set for dinner. For the occasion, my grandmother prepared her famous Italian macaroni and cheese with fresh ingredients from Russo’s. She also picked up an assortment of olives, artichoke salad and bread for our mother’s day feast. In addition to hosting the dinner, my Aunt prepared several dishes including: roasted chicken stuffed with spinach and goat cheese. My mother brought cupcakes for dessert and I….well….I brought my appetite…and my camera. Today, my goal was to document a moment worth remembering…

I cannot recall ever seeing a recent photograph of my mother, grandmother and aunt together as adults. In fact, the thought did not occur to me until just days before the shoot. Despite the cool 46 degrees (that’s 7.7 in Celsius for my non-American friends), all of us understood the importance of celebrating this moment with photography. At first there was a brief moment of hesitation. Although these woman understand that I live and work as a professional photographer, to them, I am simply Parris…their son.

Thankfully, my aunt remembered and began reenacting the “cookie cutter” poses from her class photos as a child. Jutting her nose in the direction of my mother, she loudly proclaimed, “Side profile!” To my surprise, my mother also remembered the tedium of these poses and began to join in. Before long, the two were in hysterics. My grandmother looked on completely amused and started to chuckle; an understated quiet murmur at first.Then a hearty sound escaped her lips; not a casual forgettable laugh but a deep visceral laugh. Full of soul and base, a laugh that can only be summoned by a person who has swam the depths of sorrow and soared the heights of joy. This is the quality of laugh that is earned with age. In this moment, the image presents itself if but for a fleeting moment. A rare and priceless gift. I have not seen my grandmother laugh this hard in years. Today was indeed a happy Mother’s Day!

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